Welcome toDoing It, a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions.
This month, we hear from six porn-watching women on what they like about adult entertainment.
Porn is for men who need to keep busy whenever their wives aren’t having sex with them.
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Growing up, this is the refrain I heard from my friends.
It’s exclusively made with cisgender men as the target audience.
Im invested in finding a storyline that works for me.
But it wasnt always that way.
I definitely fell victim to that mindset and still struggle with shame from time to time.
“Porn allowed me to keep my sex life alive and thriving.”
I made a pact to not have sex with people who suck, she says.
Ironically, Ive struggled to find viable sexual partners since.
Thankfully, porn has allowed me to keep my sex life alive and thriving during this major life transition.
When speaking withAllure, Gigi heavily encourages anyone consuming porn to pay for it.
Yutheeka
Adult content creatorYutheeka Borkarshares a similar sentiment.
She finds that working in this industry has caused her to be very cautious about the content she consumes.
“I know very well how leaks can happen,” the Goa-based creator explains.
I have huge respect for anybody who’s in this industry.
“I have huge respect for anybody in this industry.”
For her personal porn consumption, Yutheeka prefers amateur performances.
Its a mix between a dominating kind of porn and self pleasure.
This understanding came after an initial stint of shame.
It took me a while to make myself understand that I should not beashamed of my kinks.
The 22-year-old student highly recommends puretaboo.com.
I went over to a family friends house, who was also Muslim, she says.
We downloaded naked pictures of [World Wrestling Entertainment] wrestlers on Limewire.
Growing up, Armaan sometimes watched porn on the family computer.
While she found these videos exciting, she admits to feeling immense guilt over her enjoyment.
I thought that God was going to hate me for finding these images exciting, she tellsAllure.
“I usually search for female real orgasms.
Whatever pops up, I usually enjoy.”
Charlies porn-watching adventures began in college, when she found her imagination no longer served her duringmasturbation.
I usually search for female real orgasms, and whatever comes from that search, I usually enjoy.
Not sure where to start?Allurewriter Sophie St. Thomas vetted and compiled a list of22 feminist-friendly porn sites.
There are also countlessaudio erotica websitesfor those who prefer to ingest adult content exclusively through sound.
As a society, our collective sexual efforts can be summed up in one word:more.
We are always wanting more but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
It means that we are creative in our pursuit of the perfect adult entertainment.
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