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If you’re on#DatingTok, then you’re probably very familiar withattachment theory.
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But what happens when you don’t really fall under any of those categories?
That’s wheredisorganized attachmentmight come in.
Since then, studies on the style are still far and few between.
But first, let’s cover the basics.
What is an attachment style?
“An attachment style isn’t a medical ormental health diagnosis,” says Dr. Abrams.
If they weren’t, you’ll struggle with these types of connections.
Which attachment style are you?
Insecure attachmentcan be categorizedeven further into anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment.
Dr. Abrams says there’s flexibility forattachment styles to changeover time.
When the child grows up as an adult, they are oftenjealous, clingy, and possessive.
What is a disorganized attachment style?
According to Dr. Lawrenz, about 20 to 40 percent of adults have a disorganized attachment style.
“[It] is rooted in chaos and fear,” she says.
What are the signs of disorganized attachment?
Dr. Lawrenz adds that those in this category often struggle with dysregulation (i.e.
substance abuse or out-of-control sexual behaviors).
How do you deal with having a disorganized attachment style?
“Insight and self-awareness are necessary for growth and change,” says Dr. Ayanna.
Information can only help us make better decisions for ourselves."
Dr. Lawrenz calls outThe Attachment Projectas one reliable quiz she’d recommend.
She says you have to have hope that change can be had which is applicable to all attachment styles.
And as a reminder: no attachment style is an actual medical condition or diagnosis.
Finally: don’t get discouraged.
“This takes time, energy, and effort, and it’s very much worth it.”
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