Maybe youre the one comfortable with it.
How do you broach that conflict?
“You kind of boil it down to values around who you are… Where are you at in this?'”
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“People have to negotiate what they need, and to balance the risk that they’re taking.”
Novella adds, “Maybe people are sick of [measuring risk]!
It started with maybe the grocery store, but now it’s dating.
It’s like, ‘Okay, so what level of risk are you comfortable with?'”
That’s the mental health piece: It’s so important to connect.
It’s the difference between feeling like you’re managing or not," Novella tellsAllure.
Remember: DEAR MAN
So what do you do when youve reached an impasse?
Gonzalez shared an acronym to refer to in these moments:DEAR MAN.
If your date-to-be isn’t immediately understanding, staymindfulof any attempts to undermine your concerns.
Gonzalez says its important toappear confidentby maintaining eye contact and repeating your point without backing down.
Finally, if youre still trying to work out a compromise, you cannegotiate to a point.
You deserve to date someone who respects them.