Welcome toDoing It, a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions.
This month, we look at an oft-misrepresented sexual act: the threesome.
and how to make one actuallyhappen.
Illustration: Bella Geraci / Photos: Getty Images
I spoke to several folks about their experiences to gain some real-life perspective on this sometimes-taboo topic.
Mackenzie Joy Brennan, a lawyer in Phoenix, Arizona, shared her first time having a threesome.
[I was] 21 years old, in my last semester of college, Brennan recalls.
She approached her best friend about proposing a rendezvous to a mutual buddy.
As is the case with any sexual experience, there are countless ways to have a threesome.
In her case, it left her wanting more.
Drysdale had her first threesome as a teenager.
At the time, she was hooking up with two brothers (not at the same time).
“It was such a funny, love-filled experience.”
In the spirit of exploration, we just went for it,she says.
The interest levels I felt towards having a threesome were low.
MMF threesomes are sometimes dubbed as tag teaming, with efforts being made to avoid crossing swords.
I dont like couples who are specifically looking for a unicorn, says Lily.
Looking for a one-off experience?
Looking for a particular gender, share that.
Want to be romanced ahead of time?
pop in that out.
DuringYour Threesome
Now that youve made the threesome happen, establish ground rules and boundaries.
you could even take it a step further by asking about preferences around kinks, fetishes, andsex toys.
confirm everyone enjoyed the experience, she says.
Engaging in a threesome (or group sex) can be an incredibly spiritual experience.
They are multidimensional and are about more than just the primal act of sex.
as gratifying as possible for everyone involved.
*Name has been changed
