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If you are just now hearing the word polycule for the first time, you’re not alone.

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For example, say you have a boyfriend who has a girlfriend who has another partner.

You would move from polyamory to polycule status if you are all regularly spending time together.

The most important thing is that everyone involved agrees on the groups boundaries and dynamics.

Andrea has a romantic/sexual relationship with Brandon and David.

It goes beyond just friendship though, she says.

They are all part of my chosen family.

They practiced poly exploration for a few years, going in and out of various relationships.

In 2022, Joe met Ash online and, shortly after, she moved in.

In January 2023, Jessica started dating Dr. M, who she also met online.

Dr. M was staying at their place frequently before completely moving in a couple of months into their relationships.

Outside of this polycule, Ash has another partner who also has a nested partner.

But what about jealousy?

When all members take on that personal responsibility, so much room is freed up for intimacy and connection.

Jessica and Joe spent nearly a decade experimenting with polyamory before finding a polycule dynamic that worked.

Within their group, they spend a lot of time dialoguing with each other, as Ash puts it.

The best thing to do is to be flexible and resilient while you look to build your polycule.

Once in a polycule, you arent just in a relationship with your primary or secondary partner.

You have an ongoing emotional or platonic relationship with everyone involved.

I have learned that relationships should complement you, not complete you.