Have you ever met somebody who completely changed the course of your life?

It might have been yourtwin flame.

You’re unsure exactly why, but the meeting feels destined.

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They might not be your usual punch in or anyone you expected to fall for.

But you do fall and hard.

If twin flame relationships could be summed up in one word, it would be “intense.”

But what, exactly, does the term twin flame mean?

And, perhaps more importantly, how do you know when you’ve found yours?

It can even be a parent-child relationship; its definitely doesnt have to be romantic, Vallejos notes.

While they can beromantic relationships, these deep connections can also be completelyplatonic in nature.

So, whatisa twin flame?

Contrary to popular belief, the concept of twin flames is not the same as soul mates.

Your twin flame doesn’t even have to be someone youfall in lovewith (although it often is).

“This kind of high-level, soul-based connection isnt about romance.

Its about spiritual growth,” says Vallejos.

“You meet them and your life just completely changes.

You start seeing the world differently.

This kind of relationship goes both ways, meaning it is not a one-way spiritual street.

How do you know when you meet your twin flame?

Have you ever met someone and it just felt…meant to be?

You know, instantaneously, that this person is about to be an essential person in your life.

All of these could be twin flame relationships.

Either way, you might tell that yourenergy typesare similar and that this meeting is fated.

You might even feel that you havepsychic abilitiesand knew this meeting was meant to be.

“There’s a sense of homecoming,” explains Vallejos.

Additionally, she says that often your twin flame will have experienced similar childhoodtrauma.

Many people say that twin flames are people forged from the same soul but split in two.

“It can be really intense.

Sometimes, twin flames are called “mirror souls.”

Vallejos calls the relationships “sacred spiritual love connections.”

Because of this intensity, it’s uncommon for twin flames to be a lifelong partnership.

What happens if I break up with my twin flame?

Will I ever recover?

Because twin flame relationships are so intense, the breakup is usually just as hardcore.

You may even want to considerworking with a therapistto help you navigate it.

But the silver lining is that even though it hurts, everything is going as planned.

I dont think twin flames are meant to be a lifetime relationship.

I believe they are meant to be that catalyst.

Think of your twin flame as a catalyst.

It’s OK if therelationship ends, even if it’s quite painful due to the level of intensity.

Your twin flame may reemerge in your life, and you very well could be life-long friends.

But when it comes to long-term commitments such as marriage, your soulmate is a whole different game.

Recycling the pain in the form of an on-and-off relationship will only make the separation more difficult.

It might feel (or might have felt) like a cosmic spark when you meet your twin flame.

The relationship will set you on the right path and will help you confront and heal unresolved wounds.

Think of your twin flame as a spark, a crucial one, and someone you will always remember.

However, it’s not only all right but totally normal if the relationship doesn’t last forever.

Breakups are powerful times of transformation.

And yes, you’re allowed to look up your twin flame’sbirth charttoo.

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